Staying Sane While Caring for Someone with a Chronic Illness

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For the last 30 years, I've been the caregiver for my husband, Mike, who suffers from Crohn's disease. He has good times and bad times. Fortunately, he's been relatively healthy for the last 10 years. But I've learned a lot about being a caregiver throughout this experience.

It's All About Adapting

The most important thing I learned from Mike's struggles is that there's no sense in dwelling on what could have been. We have to deal with the situations we're in now, adapting as best as possible. I don't mean that caregivers should become martyrs and give up on things they love doing. Just because your partner is sick and can't go out to dinner with friends doesn't mean you should miss out, too. But there are times when Mike needs me to stay home with him - times when I can't bear to leave him. That's what adapting is all about - you don't live your life the same way. But at some point, you just learn that you need to do what you need to do.

Crohn's disease is an inflammatory bowel disease that injures the intestines. People with Crohn's discuss living with the disease.

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